Brides, make sure you forward this post to your maid of honor. The bachelorette party is one of the only elements of your wedding that should remain completely stress free. You’ve already got too much on your plate to worry about. You and your spouse should hold your parties on the same day, so you’re not thinking about what the other is doing. This is a celebration of your last time as single individuals, but that does not mean it is a free for all. Sit down with your spouse before your perspective parties and discuss some ground rules of acceptable behavior. Don’t be tempted into doing anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, so let your host know their limits.
It is best to keep your guest list small – 10 to 20 people. Invitees might include: close friends, relatives of the bride/groom, and co-workers. Just make sure you only invite people who are also invited to the wedding. Invitees or the host should cover all the costs of the party. You can invite your guests one of five ways: paper invitations, email invitations, phone call, in-person, or through your wedding website.
The party can be held a month to a few days before the wedding. Under no circumstance should the bachelor/bachelorette party be held the night before the wedding. This is just asking for trouble – I’m sure most of you have seen The Hangover. Reservations are a must when available; the party should be well planned in advance. The bride should be able to reminisce about how fun and seamless the night was, not recall freezing on a line outside a bar. Before making any reservations, be sure to get a final RSVP list, so you aren’t responsible for paying for people who don’t show. Try to take care of all payments in advance. You don’t want to chase after bridesmaids’ credit cards the night of (especially if there is alcohol involved). Splurge on a limo. You want to make sure all of the guest enjoy their time and get home safe.
Bachelorette parties do not have to be risqué. Some brides only want a simple dinner in a nice restaurant. Other ways to spend your last hurrah are a spa day, karaoke, or going to a psychic. For those of you who do want to get a bit raunchy…Make sure you buy a headpiece (like a veil or tiara) for the bride so she will stand out. Write up a dare to-do list for the night. Give it a point system, and have a little treat for the person with the highest score by the end of the night. A touch of burlesque along with some X-rated essentials is always fun. And don’t forget the disposable cameras. This is a night you will not want to forget [even if it might seem that way the next morning 😉 ].
Finish the evening off with some customized treats, such as t-shirts or lingerie, to give out to the guests as memorabilia. Remember, a bachelorette party cannot be possible or a success without great company and great cocktails, so make sure this is a top priority when planning the event!